I Don’t Have Baggage, Just a Small Overnight Case

Aug 30 | Filed Under Main | 

Let’s talk about baggage! 

Baggage can be many things to many people.  Here’s a list, but I’m sure some things will be left out:
1) Children from a previous marriage
2) Hurt from bitter divorce
3) Hurt and trust issues from a cheating partner
4) Hurt from previous unpleasant dating experiences
5) Money/credit issues from previous marriage
6) Large child support or alimony payments

But relationship luggage can also include:
7) Parental issues
8) Self-esteem and image issues
9) Work/career issues
10) Health problems

And your suitcases may also contain:
11) Poor outlook on life
12) Negativity about love-dating-men, etc.

Whew - that’s a whole lot of baggage! Like something you might see at the airport.

The truth is everyone has problems.  From a Zen perspective, everyone has 88 problems, and when you are lucky enough to get rid of one, another appears!  Well, that’s great. So what can be done to minimize the stuff you carry around?

We are made from the totality of our experiences - this is true.  But how we LOOK at these experiences is what truly matters. That’s why #11 and 12 are the biggest bags of all - more like steamer trunks. For example, let’s say you have a bitter divorce.  That’s horrible -nobody should have to live through.  But you did. So how can you LIVE AND LEARN? What did you discover you will never want to put up with again? What signs would you pay attention to next time? Learning experiences can change you in a positive way, not just add to your negativity.

If you’re negative about love or life - that IS baggage. Don’t kid yourself into thinking this is not one of the 88 problems. And it’s the kind of baggage that screams like a neon sign across your forehead.  I’ve been there so I know.  (Like the guy says from the Hair Club for Men - I’m not only the president, I’m also a client.)

The best thing you can do is embark on a mission to re-train your brain.  There are several productive and healthy methods to do this such as NLP, traditional therapy, hypnosis, energy balancing and healing, listening to Esther Hicks’ Abraham material, prayer, watching the SECRET video, positive self-talk and affirmations.  That’s just a partial list. Sometimes we need a cocktail of multiple options!

In my book, MANifesting Mr. Right chapters 6 and 28 are about opening your heart and broken heart repair. You might find what’s in there helpful too.

Start somewhere. Anywhere. Once you start your climb back up the attitude ladder, you will feel more optimistic, and that will increase your attractive powers dramatically.  The rewards for this healing work are plentiful and it’s well worth the trouble.

 

 

 

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