8 Powerful Ways to Get His Attention Back
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If you’ve been dating a guy for a while, and everything was great, but now, for some reason he seems distracted and may be losing interest. What’s a woman to do? Women often don’t know why this happens, but usually blame themselves. You might be thinking - "What did I do wrong?"
There could be a million reasons why your guy is distracted or not showering you with attention. And it’s a good chance you will never know for sure. But here are eight powerful ways you can regain his attention.
1) First, be clear. do you really want him back? If he lost interest, is he the right man for you? It’s worth asking because this will take some effort. so be clear he is a good match for you and worth the effort you are about to undertake.
2) Think about your interactions. Is it possible you have changed? I had a client one time who had a routine with men she dated. She’d start out all sweet as pie, but after a while, she said she couldn’t keep that up, She had to go back to being herself. Yikes! Being yourself, albeit your best self, is crucial to developing a solid relationship. See if you can return to behaving the way you did at the beginning of the relationship when he was paying lots of attention to you.
3) Have you become clingy or demanding? It can happen to the best of us. But this is unattractive behavior. Men like confident women, same as we like confident men. Get a grip on yourself and give him some space. Rely on your friends more, read self-help books, or get professional help. But don’t cling.
4) Have you put your man into communication overload? Sometimes women are so happy to be dating a great guy, they over-communicate. Hold back on multiple calls, texts, emails and give the guy some space. No one likes to feel crowded.
5) Are you trying to take up all of his time? This is another space issue. men need to keep up there friendships too and have some quality guy time. Smile when he wants to go out with the boys - that gives you a night off too. Visit with your friends or get chores done at home. You can entertain yourself one night, even on the weekend.
6) Do you still look your best? It’s easy to slip back into comfy favorites but keeping up your appearance is important for maximizing attraction while still solidifying your relationship. Dont’t back slide into old habits. Put on lipstick and wear his favorite outfit. Looking good is excellent for your own self-esteem and confidence too.
7) Pull back. I know this is the hardest thing to do. Every instinct in your body is screaming to run after him. But don’t do it. That’s the worst strategy for recapturing his attention. Think of this like ballroom dancing. As you take a step back, he has the chance to take a step forward. Are you starting to get the picture? Don’t be too available because a bit of absence can make the heart grow fonder. Let him chase you again after he realizes you’re not all over him like you used to be.
8) Remember, you are a fabulous woman and this guy is lucky to have shared time with you. If this doesn’t work out, hold your head high and remain confident. You are still a great catch and there are plenty more fish in the sea. Take time to heal, but don’t wait too long to go fishing again. I guarantee, he really wasn’t the only guy for you. Someone else is out there who might be even better, but you won’t know that if you don’t get out there to look.
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I hear you! I have not had a relationship for several years, although I was open to the idea. I moved to a different state and met someone shortly thereafter. This individual recently lost their spouse. I enjoy the company but not much time is devoted to the new relationship as my friend’s spouse died less than a year ago. I know that at times I wonder if I’m crowding a bit but when I ask (I try to be as direct as possible), I’m told all my efforts are appreciated. I wish I had a handbook.
Hi Elaine,
Dating a widower can be a touchy thing, especially if the man isn’t over his loss. It’s great that you are direct and ask the question about doing too much.
If you are worried about crowding him, cut back on how much time you rspend together. Then watch to see if he uses that space for himself or comes forward to spend more time with you. It’s not a manipulative test. The purpose is really to give him the space to do what is best for him without pressure.
And if he doesn’t come forward to spend more time with you, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t enjoy your company. It might just mean he does need more alone time for healing.
Best of luck with your love!
Rnonie
I agree with Ronnie’s suggestions - pulling back is especially good. If they are interested, they will step it up and if not, *well, then you know!*
And when they just maintain that difference, it’s time to go n*e*x*t. Any man truly interested in you would not be moving apart, at least for any length of time.
Brenda