Comments on: Dating Over 40: 8 Powerful Ways to Get His Attention Back http://www.nevertoolate.biz/2008/05/09/8-powerful-ways-to-get-his-attention-back/ it's never too late for love Wed, 08 Feb 2012 13:27:42 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: GIA http://www.nevertoolate.biz/2008/05/09/8-powerful-ways-to-get-his-attention-back/#comment-47802 GIA Thu, 16 Sep 2010 14:32:33 +0000 http://www.nevertoolate.biz/2008/05/09/8-powerful-ways-to-get-his-attention-back/#comment-47802 Nearly a year ago, I met a man who has been supportive and always there for me with current personal issues in my life. We share many common interests and values. Although he is more shy than most men, there was an instant connection between us and we became great friends. He began opening up to me and in no time we began finishing eachother's sentences, laughed at eachother's jokes, talked on serious levels as well as have fun with one another. Unfortunately, altho we stil talk on a regular basis, he seems to have withdrawn to the way he was before we became better friends. If I think he's busy I ask if I should leave but his answer is always no and that I need to stop worrying so much. So, he still likes having me around, yet, doesnt talk as much and seems distant in his answers. This made me start doubting him and ask if there was someone else he has more interest in. Again, his answer is no. He's never made me doubt him and has no reason to lie where as we are not actually in a committed relationship, even tho I would like to be more than "just friends" in the future. However, I'm afraid that this reaction from me has made me appear "clingy" and "needy" and wonder if I've lost any chance of that happening now? More recently, I'm trying to be more independent, confident happy around him. I've also been giving him alittle more space. He seems happier, but I'm not sure how much time this needs to help win his attention back or has my behavior caused me to remain in the "friends" status forever? Please advise, as any insight would be much useful and appreciated. Thank you. Nearly a year ago, I met a man who has been supportive and always there for me with current personal issues in my life. We share many common interests and values. Although he is more shy than most men, there was an instant connection between us and we became great friends. He began opening up to me and in no time we began finishing eachother’s sentences, laughed at eachother’s jokes, talked on serious levels as well as have fun with one another. Unfortunately, altho we stil talk on a regular basis, he seems to have withdrawn to the way he was before we became better friends. If I think he’s busy I ask if I should leave but his answer is always no and that I need to stop worrying so much. So, he still likes having me around, yet, doesnt talk as much and seems distant in his answers. This made me start doubting him and ask if there was someone else he has more interest in. Again, his answer is no. He’s never made me doubt him and has no reason to lie where as we are not actually in a committed relationship, even tho I would like to be more than “just friends” in the future. However, I’m afraid that this reaction from me has made me appear “clingy” and “needy” and wonder if I’ve lost any chance of that happening now? More recently, I’m trying to be more independent, confident happy around him. I’ve also been giving him alittle more space. He seems happier, but I’m not sure how much time this needs to help win his attention back or has my behavior caused me to remain in the “friends” status forever? Please advise, as any insight would be much useful and appreciated. Thank you.

]]> By: CMichelle http://www.nevertoolate.biz/2008/05/09/8-powerful-ways-to-get-his-attention-back/#comment-40086 CMichelle Tue, 16 Feb 2010 21:44:22 +0000 http://www.nevertoolate.biz/2008/05/09/8-powerful-ways-to-get-his-attention-back/#comment-40086 Hi, I thought this information is helpful. I'd been thinking I should pull back, only because I felt I was crowding my friend. I will give this a shot, only because it makes sense. He was interested in the beginning because I did not go out of my way to make time for him...perhaps, I need to go back to my original self. Good luck ladies! Hi, I thought this information is helpful. I’d been thinking I should pull back, only because I felt I was crowding my friend. I will give this a shot, only because it makes sense. He was interested in the beginning because I did not go out of my way to make time for him…perhaps, I need to go back to my original self. Good luck ladies!

]]> By: Brenda http://www.nevertoolate.biz/2008/05/09/8-powerful-ways-to-get-his-attention-back/#comment-2980 Brenda Thu, 15 May 2008 19:24:12 +0000 http://www.nevertoolate.biz/2008/05/09/8-powerful-ways-to-get-his-attention-back/#comment-2980 I agree with Ronnie's suggestions - pulling back is especially good. If they are interested, they will step it up and if not, *well, then you know!* And when they just maintain that difference, it's time to go n*e*x*t. Any man truly interested in you would not be moving apart, at least for any length of time. Brenda I agree with Ronnie’s suggestions – pulling back is especially good. If they are interested, they will step it up and if not, *well, then you know!*

And when they just maintain that difference, it’s time to go n*e*x*t. Any man truly interested in you would not be moving apart, at least for any length of time.

Brenda

]]> By: Ronnie http://www.nevertoolate.biz/2008/05/09/8-powerful-ways-to-get-his-attention-back/#comment-2979 Ronnie Thu, 15 May 2008 18:09:28 +0000 http://www.nevertoolate.biz/2008/05/09/8-powerful-ways-to-get-his-attention-back/#comment-2979 Hi Elaine, Dating a widower can be a touchy thing, especially if the man isn't over his loss. It's great that you are direct and ask the question about doing too much. If you are worried about crowding him, cut back on how much time you rspend together. Then watch to see if he uses that space for himself or comes forward to spend more time with you. It's not a manipulative test. The purpose is really to give him the space to do what is best for him without pressure. And if he doesn't come forward to spend more time with you, it doesn't mean he doesn't enjoy your company. It might just mean he does need more alone time for healing. Best of luck with your love! Rnonie Hi Elaine,
Dating a widower can be a touchy thing, especially if the man isn’t over his loss. It’s great that you are direct and ask the question about doing too much.

If you are worried about crowding him, cut back on how much time you rspend together. Then watch to see if he uses that space for himself or comes forward to spend more time with you. It’s not a manipulative test. The purpose is really to give him the space to do what is best for him without pressure.

And if he doesn’t come forward to spend more time with you, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t enjoy your company. It might just mean he does need more alone time for healing.

Best of luck with your love!
Rnonie

]]> By: Elaine http://www.nevertoolate.biz/2008/05/09/8-powerful-ways-to-get-his-attention-back/#comment-2977 Elaine Thu, 15 May 2008 17:42:05 +0000 http://www.nevertoolate.biz/2008/05/09/8-powerful-ways-to-get-his-attention-back/#comment-2977 I hear you! I have not had a relationship for several years, although I was open to the idea. I moved to a different state and met someone shortly thereafter. This individual recently lost their spouse. I enjoy the company but not much time is devoted to the new relationship as my friend's spouse died less than a year ago. I know that at times I wonder if I'm crowding a bit but when I ask (I try to be as direct as possible), I'm told all my efforts are appreciated. I wish I had a handbook. I hear you! I have not had a relationship for several years, although I was open to the idea. I moved to a different state and met someone shortly thereafter. This individual recently lost their spouse. I enjoy the company but not much time is devoted to the new relationship as my friend’s spouse died less than a year ago. I know that at times I wonder if I’m crowding a bit but when I ask (I try to be as direct as possible), I’m told all my efforts are appreciated. I wish I had a handbook.

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