Comments on: Over 40 Dating: Please Drop the Ball – How to Find Out if He’s Interested in You http://www.nevertoolate.biz/2009/03/26/please-drop-the-ball-how-to-find-out-if-hes-interested-in-you/ it's never too late for love Wed, 08 Feb 2012 13:27:42 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Ronnie http://www.nevertoolate.biz/2009/03/26/please-drop-the-ball-how-to-find-out-if-hes-interested-in-you/#comment-49264 Ronnie Wed, 27 Oct 2010 20:54:32 +0000 http://www.nevertoolate.biz/?p=793#comment-49264 Mike - good for you! I don't blame you one bit. If a woman can't respond - move on. I caution women all the time about being too busy or even saying they are really busy - it sends the wrong message - that she is unavailable.. Thanks for putting in your two cents. Mike – good for you! I don’t blame you one bit. If a woman can’t respond – move on. I caution women all the time about being too busy or even saying they are really busy – it sends the wrong message – that she is unavailable.. Thanks for putting in your two cents.

]]> By: Mike http://www.nevertoolate.biz/2009/03/26/please-drop-the-ball-how-to-find-out-if-hes-interested-in-you/#comment-49262 Mike Wed, 27 Oct 2010 20:17:00 +0000 http://www.nevertoolate.biz/?p=793#comment-49262 I like Jonny's comments! I too will only "chase" for a short time. If it seems like pulling teeth to get a call, text or e-mail returned OR she seems like her calendar is always full, I signal "next". When I'm communicating with a woman early on and I suggest some days/times to get together and she keeps saying "busy", I ask her to pick a date. If she can't do that, she's really not very interested in me. I like Jonny’s comments! I too will only “chase” for a short time. If it seems like pulling teeth to get a call, text or e-mail returned OR she seems like her calendar is always full, I signal “next”. When I’m communicating with a woman early on and I suggest some days/times to get together and she keeps saying “busy”, I ask her to pick a date. If she can’t do that, she’s really not very interested in me.

]]> By: Dating After Divorce: Did He Dump Me Because of ED? | It's Never Too Late for Love http://www.nevertoolate.biz/2009/03/26/please-drop-the-ball-how-to-find-out-if-hes-interested-in-you/#comment-44293 Dating After Divorce: Did He Dump Me Because of ED? | It's Never Too Late for Love Wed, 14 Jul 2010 14:10:36 +0000 http://www.nevertoolate.biz/?p=793#comment-44293 [...] coaching clients to master. Here are two other articles on this topic that go into more detail: Please drop the ball and 2 reasons not to chase [...] [...] coaching clients to master. Here are two other articles on this topic that go into more detail: Please drop the ball and 2 reasons not to chase [...]

]]> By: Ronnie http://www.nevertoolate.biz/2009/03/26/please-drop-the-ball-how-to-find-out-if-hes-interested-in-you/#comment-34991 Ronnie Tue, 18 Aug 2009 14:00:43 +0000 http://www.nevertoolate.biz/?p=793#comment-34991 Hi Jonny, I think you may have misunderstood my point. Your dating survival methods seem to actually be on track with what I am suggesting. I'm just recommending that women not chase men. Reciprocity is a totally different story. After you've had 4 dates with a woman, she should feel safer to contact you and suggest something. But upfront, she needs to know (as you do) that you are interested enough to pursue her, otherwise she is wasting her time. From your perspective, if a woman doesn't return your call within 24 hours - that's a signal for you that she might not be that interested. You've had enough experience that you have figured out your own ways to safe guard your heart. I applaud you for wising up! Wishing you love Jonny. Hi Jonny,
I think you may have misunderstood my point. Your dating survival methods seem to actually be on track with what I am suggesting. I’m just recommending that women not chase men. Reciprocity is a totally different story. After you’ve had 4 dates with a woman, she should feel safer to contact you and suggest something. But upfront, she needs to know (as you do) that you are interested enough to pursue her, otherwise she is wasting her time.

From your perspective, if a woman doesn’t return your call within 24 hours – that’s a signal for you that she might not be that interested. You’ve had enough experience that you have figured out your own ways to safe guard your heart. I applaud you for wising up! Wishing you love Jonny.

]]> By: Jonny http://www.nevertoolate.biz/2009/03/26/please-drop-the-ball-how-to-find-out-if-hes-interested-in-you/#comment-34964 Jonny Mon, 17 Aug 2009 19:28:39 +0000 http://www.nevertoolate.biz/?p=793#comment-34964 If a woman expects me to perpetually chase her, then it's not going to last very long. I chase after a woman a little bit, but only just enough to hint that it's "her turn" to reciprocate. Over and over and over again (painfully and foolishly) I have invested in a woman who wasn't interested. For one thing in these scenarios I gave her very little opportunity to reciprocate. For whatever reasons, she became bored or uninterested, and I felt over-extended and phony. I also believe there are always plenty of fish in the sea, and I am more likely to hunt for someone new than I am to take risks on someone I don't really know very well. If she tends to spend a lot of time with me, then I would take some risks with her. Furthermore, with some women I did not take any time to evaluate character and quality. I've learned now to do this before even thinking about getting carried-away chasing after someone who "appears" to be of good character and quality. It's a dating survival skill in a world full of adept frauds and phonies, and on one level I am grateful for these learning experiences. I will invest primarily in discovering how she treats herself, her friends, and her family. See if she is ashamed of her insecurities or aware of them. To see if she lives for herself or lives for something greater than herself. This is extremely difficult to accomplish in the dating game, which is why I've always preferred social circles for this sort of thing. P.S. I do not find a powerful woman in a position of authority necessarily attractive nor intimidating. I honestly don't understand why some guys do. P.P.S. I avoid party girls or women who like to spend a lot of time having fun. If she's thinking about clubbing or kayaking, I'm thinking about science fairs and college tuitions. Again this goes back to the core value of whether an individual lives for herself or something greater than herself. If a woman expects me to perpetually chase her, then it’s not going to last very long.

I chase after a woman a little bit, but only just enough to hint that it’s “her turn” to reciprocate. Over and over and over again (painfully and foolishly) I have invested in a woman who wasn’t interested. For one thing in these scenarios I gave her very little opportunity to reciprocate. For whatever reasons, she became bored or uninterested, and I felt over-extended and phony.

I also believe there are always plenty of fish in the sea, and I am more likely to hunt for someone new than I am to take risks on someone I don’t really know very well. If she tends to spend a lot of time with me, then I would take some risks with her.

Furthermore, with some women I did not take any time to evaluate character and quality. I’ve learned now to do this before even thinking about getting carried-away chasing after someone who “appears” to be of good character and quality. It’s a dating survival skill in a world full of adept frauds and phonies, and on one level I am grateful for these learning experiences. I will invest primarily in discovering how she treats herself, her friends, and her family. See if she is ashamed of her insecurities or aware of them. To see if she lives for herself or lives for something greater than herself. This is extremely difficult to accomplish in the dating game, which is why I’ve always preferred social circles for this sort of thing.

P.S. I do not find a powerful woman in a position of authority necessarily attractive nor intimidating. I honestly don’t understand why some guys do.

P.P.S. I avoid party girls or women who like to spend a lot of time having fun. If she’s thinking about clubbing or kayaking, I’m thinking about science fairs and college tuitions. Again this goes back to the core value of whether an individual lives for herself or something greater than herself.

]]> By: Cara http://www.nevertoolate.biz/2009/03/26/please-drop-the-ball-how-to-find-out-if-hes-interested-in-you/#comment-29384 Cara Wed, 01 Apr 2009 14:25:23 +0000 http://www.nevertoolate.biz/?p=793#comment-29384 Thanks Ronnie. Great perspective on this! Thanks Ronnie. Great perspective on this!

]]> By: searchingwithin http://www.nevertoolate.biz/2009/03/26/please-drop-the-ball-how-to-find-out-if-hes-interested-in-you/#comment-29175 searchingwithin Mon, 30 Mar 2009 16:25:12 +0000 http://www.nevertoolate.biz/?p=793#comment-29175 In womens attempt at taking the World by storm, and rising in the business world, seeking equality, so many have forgotten how to be women. In womens attempt at taking the World by storm, and rising in the business world, seeking equality, so many have forgotten how to be women.

]]> By: Terry http://www.nevertoolate.biz/2009/03/26/please-drop-the-ball-how-to-find-out-if-hes-interested-in-you/#comment-28691 Terry Fri, 27 Mar 2009 19:18:17 +0000 http://www.nevertoolate.biz/?p=793#comment-28691 Great advice as usual, Ronnie. If the guy wants you, let him find you. In the meantime, go out and have some fun. Great advice as usual, Ronnie. If the guy wants you, let him find you. In the meantime, go out and have some fun.

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