Comments on: Dating Over 40: 5 Tips to Make Online Dating Sizzle

By: Ronnie

Ronnie — Fri, 18 Feb 2011 02:53:10 +0000

Hi Savannah, I understand how confusing this seems so let me help make it easier for you. You are right – if he wants to see you , he needs to take the intiative and ask! Since its been months and he hasn’t done that – what does that tell you? Not the right guy for you. It could be as simpel as too much distance

Forget the guys who live far away. Open your mind to men who are more accessible locally . Consider men a few years younger or older, with some college rathern than only graduates, a bit shorter or with less hair. There are lots of men out there once you open your eyes, heart and mind to them.

I tell my dating coaching clients to avoid penpals. You can initiate an email to start a conversation once or twice and then take turns like tennis. Don’t force it – if the guy drops the ball – move on. After 3-4 sets of emails, talk on the phone for 20 minutes, then meet each other for an hour for coffee. otherwise you risk fantasizing about a guy that he’ll never live up once you meet him.

Keep going – it’s a numbers game.

By: Savannah

Savannah — Thu, 17 Feb 2011 23:37:54 +0000

Online dating confusion. I just got divorced after 25 years of marriage (maried young – I’m in my mid 40s) and am trying online dating, which I find very, very confusing. Unfortunately, the only guys I’ve clicked with live in cities different than mine. There’s one in particular that seemed to really click in January 2011. We were chatting up a storm until he started asking me pointed questions about whether I’m ready for a serious relationship since getting divorced. The truth is that I’m beyond ready, but I just said yes to play it cool. Things have been awkward at times (but not always) since then, but have nevertheless continued. I noticed that I was initiating an inordinate number of our chats, so I decided to stop and see what happened. Nothing happened. After forcing myself to wait until after Valentines Day to avoid looking desperate, I initiated what turned out to be a long chat. It had been about 2.5 to 3 weeks since our last chat (of this I am sure). After some introductory how are you’s, I get the following “where have you been the last few months? We haven’t talked in a long while. What’s new? Any dates? We met on a dating site. Why wouldn’t I care about that?” We had each had some dates that didn’t pan out, but here’s my question that I didn’t ask him which is, why would he care about that? If he does, then he should initiate more contact and drive the few hours it takes to meet me. This online stuff confuses me! What do you think? Thanks

By: Ronnie

Ronnie — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 15:20:29 +0000

There isn’t a way to know details about a man like his emotional availability or much else until you start to converse. That’s why if you make your profile sizzle, you’ll have more opportunities to do just that – converse, get to know men, collect data and then decide!

By: Tyrone

Tyrone — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 17:21:31 +0000

Hmmmm,

I thought this was a nice subject to read, maybe I’m missing something but I think you missed the mark.

I thought the subject was about women being frustrated with their online results in finding a suitable man to date. I thought you would offer suggestions on how a woman can better “screening process” to get from winks/emails/phone chats to an actual meeting,

I thought I would see something like….

How to determine if a guy is emotionally and physically available?
How to spot a “player”.
How to find Mr. Right.
.
.
Something like that….

P.S.
Let’s have the flip side to this also at some point. “How good men are frustrated with online dating.”

By: Sally

Sally — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 18:32:29 +0000

These are great tips Ronnie!

I especially appreciate the one about the first email… what to write is the challenge!