Dating Over 40: Banish the Bah-Humbug Dating Attitude
Posted by Ronnie on December 25, 2009 · Leave a Comment
Carla Dickens here – this month’s inspiration is my version of A Christmas Carol – the story by Charles Dickens about Ebenezer Scrooge.
Ebbie Scrooge, a good looking woman in mid life, was wasting her dating years grumbling about men. On the night before Christmas, she was commiserating with her single girlfriends, complaining bitterly about the horrible men they meet. How all the good men are taken. How they’ll never find love and refuse to settle. The girlfriends clinked their glasses one last time, toasting how they didn’t need men and parted ways. Ebbie stumbled home for a good night’s rest. But she didn’t get it.
Instead, she was visited by three Christmas Ghosts who illustrated the error of her dating ways.
The romance apparition encouraged Ebbie to not get stuck in the past. In fact, Ebbie’s past does not automatically create her romantic future. She has more free will than she realized and might want to think twice about frittering it away with negativity.
The patient spirit of Romance Present showed Ebbie how loving energy in her present life could blossom into more if she acknowledged it and felt grateful. The error of her ways, bitching and moaning, blaming men, criticizing them endlessly, actually didn’t make her feel better – it made things worse. Ebbie’s head was spinning from watching how much time she spent dissing the male species. From this new vantage point, it seemed like a waste of time and energy.
The ghost of Romance Future gave Ebbie some crucial tips about being approachable and friendly to men and most importantly, appreciating men for who they are and what they have to offer. It was as if Ebbie woke up to a whole new consciousness about dating that she had never experienced before. She could see the wisdom of her dating coach and how her advice would help create the future she so strongly desired but had long ago given up on.
Banish the Bah-Humbug Attitude
Good for you Ebbie! With those shifts in perspective and understanding, you will attract the love of a good man. The next day, Ebbie flirted just for the fun of being a woman, received lots of attention and started on the path to the love-filled future she now knows is waiting for her.
Merry Christmas!
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