I am so excited to share this with you! If you know me or have read my blog, you know how I feel about online dating sites that match you. It’s total hogwash And now I have science behind me!
As reported by CBS News, new research has been completed proving my gut instincts to be correct. In the next issue of Science in the Public Interest, experts from four universities review reports from over 400 psychological studies and surveys. Their findings expose how the matching algorithms and procedures used by online dating sites as faulty and limited at best.
What sites were reviewed? eHarmony, OKCupid and Chemistry were mentioned in the CBS News post. To me the worst offender is eHarmony whose ridiculously long questionnaire sends men packing. I helped a male client once go through the endless questioning which was beyond grueling.
Many clients have dumped all online dating thinking other services would be like eHarmony – hardly any men and no hope! In fact, I’ve had clients who had been rejected by the site, being told they couldn’t find a match for them. My opinion is that they just have too few men, especially out here in the eastern US.
In addition, scientists pointed out how the online dating industry has disregarded relationship science, counting on scientific sounding words like “matching algorithms” in their advertising. Many sites do have a scientist on the team, like Dr. Pepper Schwartz for Perfectmatch, yet it sounds like the science is not as active in their methodology as the reviewing scientists would like to see. Perhaps creating an effective matching system would be cost prohibitive. It’s hard to say.
So are you thinking, “Now what am I supposed to do?” Not to worry. Online dating is still a viable method for meeting new dating prospects. Only the matching sites are dubious in their scientific method. The good news is you can still do your own sorting to find dates. And there is no denying that 20% of all relationships today do start online. So don’t give up – keep going!
Forget those matching sites, especially eHarmony which has so few men over 40 (via my own anecdotal evidence) and rely on your own instincts to find the love you want and deserve. Register with large sites like Match.com, PlentyofFish, ChristianCafe and JDate, all of which allow you to select people that you want to connect with.
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