This post is by my friend and fellow dating coach Lisa Copeland. She offers wonderful insight in the types of men online – the good and the not so good. Just remember – the good guys are online too!
Thousands if not millions of men are on dating sites every day looking for the woman of their dreams. How do you know who the right one is for you? It starts with understanding the eleven most common types of men you’ll find on there.
1. The Needy Man
While you’re still in the emailing process, he’s already thinking of you as his girlfriend and starts calling you honey or my girl. He wants to talk with you on the phone or text you constantly leaving you no space for yourself. He always wants to be at your side. If you love a good project, he’s perfect for you.
2. The Motorcycle Dude
Lots of men ride motorcycles even doctors, lawyers, and well-paid businessmen. You can get an idea from his pictures whether he’s the kind of man you’d be interested in. Don’t knock him out yet for having this midlife hobby. All you have to do is let him enjoy being an “Easy Rider.” You never have to ride it yourself unless you want to.
3. Beware of the Ring on His Finger
Most men who don’t post pictures are usually married. These men don’t want their wife’s single friend spotting them so they go on dating sites anonymously. Often times, he’ll admit he’s married and he’ll freely talk about why he’s cruising Dating Sites in spite of it. I’d stay away…men like this rarely leave their wives.
4. Flying the Friendly Skies to Date
The biggest drawback to long distance relationships is the illusion and fantasy you create based on a LOT of phone time you share that might not end up matching reality when you do meet. Hard to do but can be done and great if you like weekend only relationships.
5. What He Really Need’s Is A Shrink Not a Date
He’s looking for a therapist and will gladly use you for the purpose of working out his issues. Steer clear. Unless you’re being paid by the hour to listen to his woes, you’ll be so much better off finding a man who’s emotionally healthier.
6. The Take Out Order Man
Some of the funniest profiles are the men who think Online Dating is like a take out ordering service. They are looking for a specific kind of woman with a specific kind of job, body, hair color and more. Stick with men who think you’re great exactly how you are!
7. The Bad Boy
He’s gorgeous, charming and a major player who will break your heart. He’s always looking for where the grass might be greener. Fun to play with but not good for long term relationships!
8. The Scammer
These are the men who’ve taken some of the fun out of dating for women. They are easy to spot when you know what to look for. This will be a man who like the bad boy tells you what you want to hear.
He will quickly tell you how much you mean to him and he will write the most romantic poems to you…often copied from the Internet. It’s likely… he’s the most handsome man you’ve ever seen…why? He uses pictures of models on his profile.
He desperately wants to meet you but for some reason, the encounter keeps getting pushed back. Then one day, there’s an accident or an illness in his family and he needs money but can’t seem to get to his for some reason.
He plays on your emotions and the false bond he’s creating by asking you for money to help him out. So many of these scams are being run out of poor countries by men and women thinking they can make a quick buck from you. Run for the hills if any man asks you for money!
9. Younger Men Online Looking for Cougars
Thanks to Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher, younger men are really into older women. It’s great for the ego. Go for it!
10. The Older Man
Older men are ‘Old School Gentlemen’ who treat you like a lady. Because they grew up with boomers, they often consider themselves part of that culture so you’ll have a lot more in common then you might with the younger men in their 30’s looking for cougars.
11. The “Quality Man”
Are you starting to wonder if any good men are even out there? Yes, they are. A “Quality Man” may not be the most handsome man online but he is the nicest and he will do anything for you.
He’s the man who’s interested in what you’re doing. He’s the one who will post pictures of his children and his dog trying to convey a good value about family that you might want to consider.
Lots of “Quality Men” are online and they want nothing more then an opportunity to love you and make you happy. All you have to do is figure out what a “Quality Man” means to you.
About the Author of this Blog – Lisa Copeland – “The Dating Coach Who Makes Dating Fun and Easier After 50!”
After two divorces and one online dating pitfall after another, Lisa Copeland felt like a failure. Deciding she needed help, she searched for a dating coach for women like her. She met with younger coaches, but it felt like telling her kids about her love life. No way! Lisa started researching and figured out what worked. She was having a blast dating really great men, her calendar was full of dates, and friends began asking for tips. Using the tools she discovered, they too began dating great guys and having fun. More than finding quality men, Lisa found her calling. “I didn’t want women to have to struggle like I did for a decade. Although I can see now, the crazy dating experiences I had were meant to put me right where I am now – helping women find love after 50.” She serves as a coach, an author, and a speaker in the United States and abroad. Visit www.FindAQualityMan.com for more information.