I woke up on a cold January morning, which happened to be my 40th birthday to the realization that I was still single and might be that way for the rest of my life. I thought I should probably get used to that idea, since being single was what seemed most likely. Why fight the obvious and inevitable?
By May, I was singing a different tune. I was in a total uproar, and decided that there was no way in hell I was going to remain single if there was a breath left in my body. I summoned up all of my determination and promised myself to do everything in my power to change my relationship status.
I set out to discover what had kept me single – so I could change that first. I realized that I had not been open to men or a real relationship since my college boyfriend had broken my heart 18 years earlier! At first I focused on opening my heart to love and feeling attractive. Next, I told everyone what I was up to and before I knew it, I went out on the first blind date that started the ball rolling. In only 15 months, I dated 30 men, ending with meeting my husband, Paul. I’ve been married for a few years and couldn’t be happier.
I successfully crammed 20 years of dating into a highly compressed time frame, which sometimes made the learning harsh, but always useful. And I learned extremely quickly from my mistakes! While I had steady boyfriends in high school and college, I did very little dating during my youth. Most of my 20′s and 30′s were spent climbing the corporate ladder and enjoying the company of my wonderful single girlfriends. In other words, I had to start from scratch to establish my dating IQ.
I developed a dating “protocol,” a set of standards that I followed and used as a benchmark with my dates. While some things had to be decided on the spot, any decisions I could handle ahead of time made dating easier. Questions like who was going to pay, where to meet for the first date, who called to set up dates, and when to be intimate became second nature.
Eventually, I moved into later phases of courtship, and finally, after meeting Paul, I made it to full commitment and marriage. Looking back on this journey, it still amazes me. Today, I can see another outcome from this “labor of love.” I can share my success, what worked for me, and the wisdom I gathered along the way with other single people who aren’t sure where to start. I am thrilled to coach people as they discover what holds them back, dissolve obstacles, and get out there to meet wonderful mates.
If you are reading this and wondering if Dating Coaching is for you, let me say the answer is YES! If you feel inspired, ready to shake things up, do something different, and incredibly determined to find your mate, then contact me to start the journey. The right person is out there. Don’t let another day go by. Take the first step today by calling me at 203-877-3777 or sending an email. I can’t encourage you enough to get out there and make your dream of love a reality. You deserve it!