Dating After Divorce: Is Procrastination is Keeping You from Meeting Your Mate?

Do you procrastinate? I’ll admit that I do for somethings.  I certainly procrastinated about looking for a man in my 30’s. In fact I didn’t just procrastinate, I did almost nothing. I went to the occasional singles dance and usually went home depressed. That’s about it.

I was very social during my 30’s with lots of girlfriends. But we never did anything together to meet men. We went to dinner, took vacations, attended workshops and the theatre. But rare was the focus  on man hunting.

The results? Nothing to speak of. I didn’t do much so how much could I expect as results? I just kept thinking it would happen, you know, naturally. Looking back I can see what an error in thinking that was.

Yesterday my friend Carol sent me this quote by Victor Kiam

                             ”Procrastination is the assassin of opportunity.”

Thanks Victor. You make a good point.

The question is – is your love life a victim of procrastination? Summer is the best time of year to mingle and meet men. With outdoor patio bars teaming, BBQ and picnics rampant, and everyone getting outside – you have a plethora of opportunities to find prospects! Are you leveraging the social possibilities or procrastinating?

for me, I didn’t start meeting men until I made a conscious effort to do so. I had to get out there and take part in activities where I knew single men would be. I met lots of men and I made some new single women friends too! Everything event I attended brought me one step closer to finding my husband.

The same is true for you. Every event you attend, every picnic, singles dance, speed dating event, blind date, Internet coffee date – they all work in your favor to find love.

“Make hay while the sun shines.” That’s another oldie but goodie saying. In CT it may not be so sunny. But the events are happening any way.  Which leaves you only two choices:

1. Get out there to mingle and meet prospects
2. Hang back, procrastinate, and do nothing to create a love life this summer

Of course this momentous choice is all yours. And as a dating coach and former single gal who found love, my hope for you is that you’ll choose door #1.

This might be your most fun flirty summer ever!

And if you need a kick in the panties, I’m running a workshop via conference call beginning Sunday night July 12th from 8-9pm east coast time. Four calls to get you excited and motivated, create a plan for prospecting, learn new flirting tips, and get the support and encouragement you need to do something to change your single status. Read more here

Call me to sign up at 203-877-3777.  Just $99 for all four sessions and a copy of my book MANifesting Mr. Right. I’m here to help!

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FINDING LOVE ONLINE

There’s no question that online dating has gone mainstream with more singles than ever seeking and finding love over the internet. That’s because over 40 million people are online! During this fun, interactive workshop learn about the many different sites available and the pros and cons of some of the more popular ones. Discuss how to write a dynamic, effective profile and emails that get answered. Discover how to filter out inappropriate candidates. Meet other singles and share different strategies for getting to know people online. Discuss safety tips first date ideas and what to expect.

 

Thursday, October 30^th  7 – 9pm, Westport Adult Education, Westport, CT
To register, call 203-341-1209

 

Dating Over 40: Cougars – The Newest Trend in Dating

Now that women have come into their own regarding business, career, money and power, we are starting to see evidence of how that power can turn a woman’s head. Or a younger man’s. Enter the Cougars, a term (whose origins are being argued over)  to describe a newly emerging group of s-e-x-y, 40+ women who seek the company of the younger man.

While the concept is not a new one (after all, Catherine the Great entertained younger men) it has become en vogue. We can thank  Demi Moore who influenced today’s pop culture more than anyone regarding this penchant for women to rob the cradle.

Not all Cougars want to marry or commit either. Some want to play the field, starting up a girl’s club that rivals the old boys club. In fact, Linda Franklin, a Boston based coach started the RealCougarsClub.com. Yes, I’ll admit I visited – I was curious. But you can’t see a thing unless you sign up. So I did! After all, my husband is 4 years younger, so I say that qualifies me to some degree.

Starting to explore, Linda has a busy blog and plenty of interesting discussion about dating younger men and the possible complications, twists and turns involved, when you get involved…

There’s a very long, but very interesting article in the Boston Globe that discusses the trend in detail  – starting with Barbara Walters and how she brought this topic up on the View. Too bad I didn’t get to see that show! Any way, I think it’s great reading and may get your mojo going. It’s proof that there are many ways to run your romantic life, not just the plain Jane. Skim it over and tell me what you think!