10/27 – CT Event – The Secret to Finding Love – Newtown, CT

“The Secret” to Finding Love”
How to Apply the Law of Attraction to Create the Love-Life You Want!

Are you single again and not sure where to start ? Are you frustrated with your dating results?  Don’t worry, “The Secret” can help.  In this uplifting and information-packed workshop for women, you’ll learn how to apply the Law-of-Attraction to your love-life. You’ll also find out how to:

  • Adopt Dater’s Mind for greater success
  • Heighten your feminine charm
  • Connect with your Inner Goddess to build confidence
  • Flirt for the sheer fun of it
  • Meet more men than ever!

And, you’ll discover how to overcome courtship confusion with Yin and Yang Dating Philosophy, plus loads of other practical dating advice that will make your efforts so much more fun and successful  When the workshop is over, you’ll leave with surefire “Attraction Plan & Action Plan” to find the love you want!

Tuesday, October 27th  7-9pm Sticks & Stones Farm, Newtown CT
Fee: $37
To register, visit www.sticksandstonesfarm.com or call 203-270-8820


October 27, 2009 | Filed Under Past Events | Leave a Comment 

Dating Over 40: No Pain, No Gain – a Slogan from Fitness that Applies to Dating

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The best point Marie Forleo makes in her book Make Every Man Want You is that there are no guarantees in love. That’s certainly true. Yet, I run into so many women who don’t have time to waste with the wrong guy. They make snap judgments about every man they meet since their free time is so limited. But  if you aren’t willing to take the time to get to know a man, how can you accurately determine his worthiness?

Since there are no guarantees, you must take calculated risks and check things out for yourself. There is no getting around getting to know people. Your Mr. Right might not be obvious in the first minute or two. Perhaps after 90 minutes or a few dates, you’ll both relax and start to learn things that excite you about the other person. There’s only one way to find out

Without a willingness to risk and take chances, you cannot find love. Perhaps that’s why according to a recent AARP study, only 16% of singles are doing anything to change their relationship status.

One of my dating coaching clients once said to me, “What do you want me to do ? Date strangers?” Yes! that’s exactly what I want  you to do. How many single men do you know right now who would be perfect for you? Two? One? None? Mostly likely the answer was “none.” 

You aren’t likely to meet a lot of men for a number of reasons:

  • You aren’t normally that friendly
  • You don’t like to talk to strangers
  • You don’t meet many men on a daily basis
  • You don’t notice men
  • You are very task-oriented when you run errands
  • You work with mostly women
  • You don’t always look your best when you go out so you hope not to run into anyone
  • You don’t leverage your network of friends or colleagues to meet new people or men

My friend Linda Gottlieb is a fitness coach who doesn’t believe in bullying people to get them fit. She has a more fun and customized approach to creating workouts that deliver for her clients. Nonetheless, even Linda would say you have to be willing to stretch to get results.

No pain no gain. It’s hard to get away from this statement when you are trying to start new habits or eliminate old ones.

Stretch yourself to find love. Try new things to meet the right man. Open up from the heart to make a heart connection. Risk wasting a few hours to discover if the man you are with has true potential as a life partner.

There really is no other choice. And once you find him, of course every step along the way got you there. Keep that in mind as you journey forth – every step you take brings you one step closer to the love you deserve.

May 28, 2009 | Filed Under Blog, Dating After Divorce, Dating Strategy & Attitude | Leave a Comment 

Over 40 Dating: Love Blooms from Brief Subway Flirting

One of my dating coaching clients sent this fun article about a NYC romance from the NY Times. Quirky as it may be, these two found each other as a result of the brides willingness to flirt with a total stranger. She took a chance, walked up to this man and asked him about what he was reading while on the subway.

Find out what she did when her stop came and she got off when you read the article and how they managed to fall in love.  This is exactly the kind of move I encourage in my workshop “The 100 Day Challenge.” While so many women feel timid about talking to strangers, that is exactly what can get you noticed.

Breaking the ice isn’t about the perfect line. You don’t need the wittiest comment. All that is required is a willingness to take a shot, push past your comfort zone and SAY SOMETHING!

If you wait until you have more confidence, you will never get started. spring is in the air. Get out there and start the ball rolling for a romantic spring filled with “men possiblitiies.”  Start by simply smiling at men with a little eye contact. Then force yuorlsef to say “hi.”

Next push yourself to strike up conversations. You will become more comfortable with just a little practice. Especially when you realize that 99% of men openly welcome your flirtatios approach.

This is not pursit! Oh no! YOu are not asking a man out for a date. This is leveraging your feminine charm and allure for all its worth – which is plenty!

After a brief conversation, don’t linger. If he doesn’t ask for your number, you can offer it if you feel compelled. Otherwise, just accept this as part of your training and let it go as a fun exchange which can build your confidence and strengthen your belief. The right man is out there and YOU WILL FIND HIM.

And best of all, if you continue to cross paths with men, flirt and talk to them,  appear to be a fun  person who is easy to be with, you WILL ATTRACT MORE MEN so HE CAN FIND YOU!

Read the article about this quirky love story. It will demonstrate that no matter how odd or  run-of-the-mill you are, if you want to find love and believe it is possible, take the steps to get out there and flirt – you can find it!

I found love over 40 and I know without question that you can too!

April 13, 2009 | Filed Under Blog, Books, TV, Movies, Web, News | Leave a Comment 

Ronnie on the Radio

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NETWORKING SINGLES RADIO SHOW
Thursday 2/26/09 Listen to live broadcast at www.WNRI.com  6-7pm est click on listen button  
LA TALK RADIO The Art of Love Radio show with Lucia
Great interview with Lucia last Sunday. Listen here! www.latalkradio.com/Lucia.php

September 2, 2008 | Filed Under Past Events | Leave a Comment 

Dating Over 40: Don’t Believe in Love? Check out Christian the Lion Video

Last week the Today Show featured this YouTube video and today they did another story about the owners of this amazing lion named Christian. They kept him in their London flat for a year until he out grew city life, Then they had him released into the wild. After a year or so, they missed Christian the Lion, so they went to Africa to search for him and FOUND HIM. When you watch this video, you won’t believe your eyes. That lion has what appears to be a human level of love for his two owners. Get a hankie before you click to watch!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oiGKWoJi5qM

And once you’ve watched, take time to reconfirm your own belief in love. The right man for you is out there. Your belief and ability to keep the search moving forward will help you find it. Love is your birth right. Don’t give up!

 

July 30, 2008 | Filed Under Blog | Leave a Comment 

Dating Over 40: Sex Week at Yale

Can you believe this one? Back in 2002, a Yale student pulled together a few speakers for Valentine’s week and now it’s turned into a mighty extravaganza event with nationally known speakers. Sex Week at Yale covers an array of topics from p-o-r-n, to orgasm, to finding love.

And what a line up!

Dr. Ruth who needs no further introduction, Dr. Helen Fischer from the Rutgers Marriage Project (I mention her study in my book!) and also a consultant to Chemistry.com, Dr. Pepper Schwartz who works with True.com and the two guys from the VH1 show – the Pick Up Artist (that’s who I most want to see)

Here’s how the Sex Week official web site describes the event:

"Sex Week explores love, sex, intimacy and relationships by focusing on how sexuality is manifested in America, helping students to reconcile these issues in their own lives. We strive to get beyond the awkwardness, the discomfort, and the taboo of conventional sex education programs by treating sexual behavior as the reality it is, not as it has been portrayed. Through debates, seminars, fashion shows, concerts, and discussions, students are given the chance to interact formally and informally with professionals who deal with these issues every day, so they can learn about sexuality from those who are responsible for shaping it."

As it turns out, I’ll be speaking about finding love and Sex Week at Yale on WYBC in New Haven, 10:30am this coming Friday. Should be  a fun show with Lisa Wexler of Lunch with Lisa fame.

Apparently, they are making a movie about the event, but the trailer isn’t available yet. Oh well.

Let’s all do what we can to enjoy Sex Week at Yale, no matter where you are!

February 13, 2008 | Filed Under Blog | Leave a Comment 

Dating After Divorce: Three Ways to Get Ready for Love

With Valentine’s Day on the horizon, thoughts about finding a sweetheart pop into almost every single woman’s mind. As a dating coach, so many clients ask me where the best places are to meet men. Surprisingly, this is often not the first step on the road to finding love. I gingerly explain that while it may seem like knowing the hot spots is the answer to their single circumstance, that may not be the whole truth.
 
There is a step before meeting prospects that is actually more important. The question becomes not where to meet new men, but instead – WHO are you when you meet them?
 
In other words, what is your attitude and mindset when you look for love? Too frequently women go out with the scars of past hurt and ex lovers written all over them. Perhaps you’ve had a run of bad dates or you haven’t been out in years. If that’s true, there are three basic areas that could use attention to be the most attractive you can be.
 
1) Are You Emotionally Available?
When you carry a torch for a lost love, or remain angry from love gone wrong, this drags your energy and attitude down. You cannot be your most alluring when carrying baggage. Here are a few ways to check that baggage and free yourself up for a new relationship:
-         Light a candle and say a prayer. Asking for help from a higher power can be such a blessing and support for releasing history. Ask to let go of what no longer serves you and sever any remaining emotional ties.
-         Visualize removing any imaginary strings of attachment that might still be connecting you to a past love. Watch these strings dissolve or cut yourself loose. Then imagine healing the places on your body where the attachments occurred.
-         Take advantage of traditional therapy to facilitate the letting go process. Another approach is to work with an energy healer (Reiki, aromatherapy, etc.) to release a past love.
 
2) Do You See Yourself as Someone Who Dates?
A woman who dates sees herself as attractive to the opposite sex.  She feels confident that she’ll be noticed and comfortable when approached by men. Her wardrobe includes alluring clothes that help her look and feel her best. What’s in your closet and how would you respond if a man walked over to strike up a conversation? If you’ve got a few good outfits and handle attention well, you’re all set.
 
3) Can You Flirt with Style and Enjoy it for What it Is?
Flirting is an art that can be easily learned. Basic elements include, brief eye-contact, followed by a smile, before gracefully looking away. Using this simple tip can change your social karma dramatically. Clients who have tried this were thrilled with the results! Why? Because many women have forgotten the fundamentals of simply being friendly. 
 
Maybe it’s all the bad news on TV or perhaps people are just too busy to bother being friendly. Whatever the reason, when you catch a man’s eye, smile and act friendly, you in essence let him know you are safe to approach. Believe it or not, most men don’t like being rejected.
 
Most of all, the point of flirting is to have fun! When you smile at a man, you acknowledge him and that makes you both feel good. It’s flattering and who doesn’t enjoy a little flattery? Flirting works best without an agenda because then you’re relaxed and having fun. If you’re trying to get someone’s attention, your efforts aren’t likely to seem natural.
 
During February, the month dedicated to love, why not take stock of these three areas and put them to work for you?  If you’re emotionally available, think of yourself as an alluring woman (and do something to make it so) and know how to flirt, you’re ready to find love.  Get out there to connect with the countless fabulous men who are waiting to meet a wonderful woman like you.

February 12, 2008 | Filed Under Blog | Leave a Comment 

Dating Over 40: Which States Could Cupid Win in the Primary Race?

Has the Mythic God of Love Lost Popularity and What You Can Do to Help Him Regain His Standing
 
Cupid may be popular in some circles, but in others, he wouldn’t do much better than Giuliani did in the New Hampshire primary. Are most singles shunning Cupid because they are content with their solo-status? “Many feel it’s not worth the trouble to look for love,” says author and dating coach, Ronnie Ann Ryan.  
 
According to Ryan, author of MANifesting Mr. Right:: It’s Never Too Late to Find the Love You Want, “Many singles are disenchanted or they’ve simply dropped romance as a priority because the adult dating game has become so complicated.”  
 
A recent study conducted by the AARP of single people ages 40-70 found that only 16% are willing to do anything to find love.  However, since the US Census says that approximately half of the adult population is unattached, there’s never been a better time to be single.
 
“Once people make finding love their priority, the dating process becomes a lot easier,” says Ryan. “Today there are more ways than ever for singles to connect. People who invest time looking for love are often well rewarded.” Ryan suggests that her clients create a Dating Action Plan that helps to map out their strategy for meeting new people.
 
Let’s help Cupid regain his standing. For singles who are willing to put some effort into dating, here are four savvy strategies for finding love this Valentine’s season:
 
1) Get Out of the House –Mr./Ms. Right isn’t Likely to Come Knocking
Dating has become big business because there are so many adult singles. That means there are many ways to meet new people. “To increase your chances of finding the right date for you, try a mix of venues such as dances, speed dating, and meet up groups,” says Ryan. “Look in your local paper, your town’s online calendar, on craigslist.com and meetup.com.”
 
2) Enlist Your Network
Don’t hide the fact that you’d like to find a relationship – tell your friends and family! You might even share your desire with a few trusted colleagues. Your personal network is one of your best resources for drumming up blind dates, so allow those close to you to help with your search. (That’s how Ronnie met her husband!)
 
3) A Wink and a Grin – Friendliness Wins
It’s hard to imagine having to dole out this advice, but people need to be more sociable. If you find that you constantly have your guard up, you might want to consider starting a new practice: smile!  By showing those pearly whites, you’ll makes others feel good and that feeling will come back to lift your spirits as well. “When you smile, you are much more attractive, physically and energetically,” says Ryan.

4) Relax and Enjoy Yourself
Meeting new people can actually be fun.  If you take the pressure off and just enjoy getting to know others, you will undoubtedly encounter some very interesting prospects.

The desire for love and companionship is a basic human need. But romance doesn’t often happen spontaneously – you have to put forth a bit of effort. According to Ryan, “Once you’re in love, no one ever complains about the time and effort it took to get there.” Keep Cupid at the top of the list. Make finding love a priority today.

February 6, 2008 | Filed Under Blog | Leave a Comment 

Dating Over 40: 4 Tips to Make Friends with Cupid

Some single people dread the sight of Cupid and the whole month of February for that matter. If you often get down around this time, here are four tips for shifting your experience. Make friend with Cupid and take advantage of the loving energy this holiday brings.

1) Expand your definition of love to include your close friends and family.
Linked to romance for close to two thousand years, the month of February bubbles over with loving energy. Tap into that spirit and be thankful for the love that does exist in your world. Everyone has some love to be thankful for, so use Valentine’s Day to acknowledge all kinds of love. Express appreciation to your family, send notes to old friends or, cherish your relationship with a neighbor or give your dog some extra playtime. 

2) if you’re single and feel jealous of people in love, reframe these feelings. 
Lift your thoughts to be happy for these couples. They represent positive evidence that love is still possible! Being happy for others helps you share in their good energy. It’s like seeing the glass half-full vs. the glass half-empty. The more couples you see in love, the more open you can be to finding a love of your own. If so many others found a partner, so can you!
 
3) Buy yourself a gift of love. 
Whether you want a heart-shaped necklace or a dozen roses, make your vision a reality. Purchase something marvelous and appreciate what a wonderful, loving person you are. You might also treat your girlfriends to some flowers or candy too and spread the appreciation around. Self-love is often the first step to finding a loving partner.

4) If  you’re dating or in a relationship, be realistic with expectations and take ownership of what you want. 
Real life doesn’t replicate a romance novel. Be grateful for a single rose or two dozen. Or be direct and nicely tell your partner what would make you happy rather than hope s/he guesses. Treat your partner the way you want to be treated and do it for the simple pleasure it brings, rather than what you’ll get in return.

Making friends with Cupid allows you to ride the wave of loving energy that is available and enjoy the holiday in a new way. There is a Hawaiian Shaman principle that claims, "Energy goes where attention flows."  Be conscious of what you choose as your focus and benefit from that choice!

Wishing you love!

February 4, 2008 | Filed Under Blog | Leave a Comment 

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